I’m reading Wild at Heart for the second time, and I’m also halfway through Captivating. Both of these books are amazing. To be a mouse in the Eldredge household must be an amazing thing. But as I’ve read through both of these books, there are certain things that have made a huge impact on me, and so I’ve decided to take my heart out of it’s protective little box and set it on the table and write a few things from it to the females.
First off, let me say that I’m sorry. I’m sorry that we as males have not lived up to who we were created and designed to be. This isn’t some male-bashing statement to say that men aren’t good enough or that we aren’t living up to some set of standards set by culture today. We all know that we get enough of that from evening sitcoms. I’m saying we aren’t living up to who we were designed to be and who we are fully capable of being, myself included. I’m sorry that as men, we are so stuck on not failing that we have indeed failed by doing nothing. God has given us an amazing example to follow in Himself, and we just put Him back on the shelf and decide we’re afraid to fail, and it has caused heartache after heartache in relationships throughout history. I also want to apologize for the fact that we continually fail in our ability to tell you how much you mean to us and how much we truly delight in you.
In Captivating, one of the best parts so far is when the creation of Eve is talked about. As I was reading it, I think I was nodding my head in agreement. Something females clearly do not hear enough is that you are God’s finest creation. The way he created you today; not once you lose a few pounds, get that new haircut, or buy that new outfit. Each step of the way, as God the artist is creating, He is becoming more delicate, more intricate, and creating more amazing works of art. Light, sky, land, plants, birds and fish, wild animals, Adam. And still God said things weren’t good enough; something was missing. His final creation, the greatest thing that He creates, His masterpiece, the thing with the most beauty and intricacy, is Eve. The world God created was not good, not complete, without you in it.
Clearly, we as men suck at telling you this. Whether it’s your father as you’re growing up, boyfriends along the way, or a husband that seems to be completely emotionless and distant, we’re terrible at it. Lassie has a better chance of explaining that little Timmie is stuck in a well before we have a chance of explaining how riveting, amazing, and beautiful you are, and how much we delight in you. So, please, consider the following from all of us:
You are the most beautiful thing we have ever seen, hands down. When you walk into a room, we can’t help but look at you. We do everything we can to make you laugh, even if it’s just a hint of a grin. When we look into your eyes, we get lost, sometimes to the point of speechlessness. We are intrigued by you, and do whatever we can to get to know you more. We know you’re smarter than us, and that scares us a little, but in a good way. Your strength is amazing, as history has shown in Rahab, Ruth, Mary, Mother Teresa, and countless others. You are the beauty that each and every man deep down in his heart is longing to fight for, and we desire to live a life of adventure with you.
Also, there’s someone who has pursued you from the beginning, someone who is much better at this than any man, and that person is God. Truly, He’s the only person that can answer the question of every girl’s heart, just like he’s the only person that can answer the question in every guy’s heart. Take a look at Song of Solomon, and then pair that with the fact that God considers himself a bridegroom, and you are his bride. When 
you put those two things together, there’s no question how God feels about you and your beauty. When you take away all the religious trappings we’ve thrown on that statement, and add in some Song of Solomon, I don’t think there’s any question. Please keep in mind that God loves you, desires you, and delights in you infinitely more than any of us could.
I know this all may not feel like a lot of consolation if you’re spending a Valentine’s Day weekend by yourself, and this may just feel to you like another “Valentine’s Day Post to Sad People” or something like that, but I beg you to examine your heart, and run to God to get the questions answered that you find there.
(I’ve taken ideas liberally from both Wild at Heart and Captivating, but these books have been instrumental lately in helping me to understand who I am and I wanted to share those ideas with you.
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